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SMOTHERS, Jay of Holbrook, Massachusetts, died at home of natural causes on Wednesday, October 19, 2022. He was the dear son of the Rev. Dr. Gary and Dolores Smothers, both deceased. He is survived by his sister Jeanne Parker and her husband Bruce, of Maine. Jay had never married.

In 1970 the Smothers family moved from Illinois to Holbrook where Gary became the Pastor of the Winthrop Congregational Church, Dee was the church organist for many years, and had a career as a teacher in the Braintree school system.
Jay was a graduate of Holbrook High School, class of 1981. He graduated from the University of Massachusetts, and continued on to the UMASS Law School. He had nearly completed his law degree when a brain aneurism derailed this goal. He had been working full time at a law firm and finishing school part time.

With hard work, he made a good recovery, but was not able to continue in the field of law or complete his degree. Once he was back on his feet, he worked part time for a while, but some of the stroke-like effects of the aneurism eventually made that impossible.

He then focused on helping his retired parents as needed. When Dolores died, he immediately moved in with Gary, helping to care for him until his death.

Jay continued living in his parent’s house. In spite of the aneurism, he was quite able to go about the daily tasks of living, but often felt physically overheated. That might explain why he was usually seen around town wearing shorts and a t-shirt, hiking boots, and a couple of vests, with many pockets! Don't forget the walking stick! This would have been most months of the year.

Jay was seven years old when his family moved to Linfield Street. The first person he met (probably five minutes after jumping out of the car) was his great lifelong friend Bob Grant, from across the street. The depth of Bob’s friendship had and still has no bounds. From the years together as kids and young adults, to the difficult time of Jay’s hospitalization and recovery, Bob was there. He helped Jay to get settled into an apartment, to move in with his father when that was needed, and to support him when he was on his own. He was there for Jay every day of every year. His lifelong friendship to Jay, and to the Smothers family, including Jeanne and Bruce during their difficult time now, is impossible to really quantify, and they thank him with all their hearts.

Jay was very good natured and always in a cheerful mood, greeting people wherever he went, a trait he probably got from his father. His parting salutation was always the same to everyone;
“STAY ALIVE!”

Jay’s friends are invited to attend a remembrance for him, 11:00 am, Saturday, November 5th, 2022, at the Connection Café, 40 Union Street, Holbrook, MA.

Please join us then, and remember to Stay Alive.
Parking at the Connection Cafe is somewhat limited. More parking is available behind the Town Hall, with stairs leading down to the Cafe lot.

Arrangements are under the care of the Cartwright Funeral Home, Holbrook. To leave a sympathy message for the family, please visit www.cartwrightfuneral.com


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