Eleanor was born on May 8, 1930, to Phillip J. Healey and Elizabeth F. McLaughlin in Dorchester, Massachusetts, and sisters Mary Healey and Dorothy (Healey) Ray.
We take comfort in knowing that Eleanor was welcomed by husband’s John Philip James Barry and Harvey L. Hoffman, her son Stephen Philip Barry, her parents and sisters.
Eleanor was loved by her surviving children; Jean (Barry) and Robert Pishkin of Waynesboro, VA, David Barry of Gridley, CA, Annmarie (Barry) and Stephen Flaherty of Sanford, NC, Mary (Barry) and Richard Jordan of Weymouth, MA, Rita (Barry) and Wayne Legere of Manchester, NH, Janet Barry-McCarthy, Kevin and Sarah, Brendan Barry and partner Dawn Kelly, Cherie (Hoffman) and David Gregg, Tammy (Hoffman) and James Garner, twenty-seven grandchildren, twenty-nine great-grandchildren and fifteen great-great-grandchildren.
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Eleanor’s family will honor and remember her life privately and a Memorial Service will be held at a later date.
Arrangements under the care of Cartwright Funeral Home, 845 Washington St., Braintree. To leave a sympathy message for the family, visit www.cartwrightfuneral.com.
Eleanor Flavia (Healey) Barry-Hoffman passed on April 26, 2020 with the comfort of family nearby. She was loved by two fine men, eleven children, twenty-seven grandchildren, twenty-nine great-grandchildren and fifteen great-great-grandchildren in her life.
With John (Jack) Phillip Barry, who passed on June 18, 1985, Eleanor raised nine children: Stephen, Jean, David, Annmarie, Mary, Rita, Janet, Kevin and Brendan. When Eleanor and Harvey L. Hoffman were married, she gained two more children: Cherie and Tammy. Dearly loved by all her family, Eleanor never believed that blood relation is a necessary component to being family. All were loved equally.
Eleanor was born on May 8, 1930, the youngest of three girls to Philip J. Healey, a watchmaker, and Elizabeth F. McLaughlin in Dorchester, Massachusetts. The first in her family to be born in the hospital, she was named after the nurse who cared for her. Her oldest sister Mary followed her calling to serve the Church with the Sisters of Charity. Dorothy (Dotty) would become a nurse.
Growing up in Dorchester, her favorite pastimes were swimming at Malibu Beach, listening to her father’s tenor voice while her mother played piano, and riding in the rumble seat of her uncle’s Model T. She played the bugle with the drum and bugle corps, and on weekends the family would play and sing at the American Legion Hall where her father was grandmaster.
At nine, heartbroken that Mary was moving to a convent in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Eleanor tried to hide on the boat to go with her.
As a teenager, Eleanor worked in a bakery before school. She would attend Swedish dances with her sister, Dotty. Both girls were so fair, that all boys assumed they were Swedish and were disappointed to learn they were actually Irish.
At seventeen, Eleanor and Jack met at a dance. Five years older than her, when Jack called on her, it was assumed he was calling for Dotty. Nope, he was smitten with the platinum blonde beauty.
She was so beautiful that Breck Shampoo Company invited her to be a “Breck Girl”, the Cover Girl of her time. But her father would not allow her to travel to New York City alone. Eleanor loved to sing and was proud to have made a record.
They were married on Thanksgiving, November 24, 1949 and enjoyed 35 years together before Jack passed from congestive heart failure. Despite his long illness, Jack and Eleanor raised their nine children with a sense of adventure with vacations at the beach on Cape Cod, summer long camping at Maple Park in Wareham, Massachusetts, hiking the Blue Hills trails, and winter tobogganing on the ‘back hill’ or at President’s golf course.
Originally learning to cook from Nana Barry, Eleanor then broke all the rules and the glass ceiling by becoming the first woman to train as a chef in the Massasoit College program. When discouraged by the head chef in entering an annual competition in New York, Eleanor ignored him…and won! All while raising nine children.
Eleanor and Jack then leased the lobby coffee shop at the Bradford Hotel in the theater district of Boston. Dubbed ‘The Family Tree’, the restaurant served many celebrities staying at the hotel while acting in shows. Eleanor worked as a chef at Boston College, Hellenic College and as a private caterer.
Eleanor was a strong advocate, an attribute she passed on to all her children. She was formidable and tenacious when necessary. When one son was not having his needs met in the local school system, she took the Town and State to court, and won. That ruling would be used when the national Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) was formed.
Eleanor loved to travel, and in later years took jobs with travel agencies and tour companies to further her own adventures.
A few years after Jack passed, Eleanor met Harvey Hoffman. They were married in The Little Chapel in Las Vegas on October 27, 1992 and enjoyed several years together residing in Newport Richey, Florida until Harvey passed on March 14, 2007. Still the swimmer, Eleanor spent much of her time in the pool. She enjoyed the many neighborhood gatherings and visits from family and friends.
Alone again, yet fiercely independent, Eleanor eventually moved to an apartment in Sanford, North Carolina to be near children, Annmarie, Kevin and Brendan, and her grandchildren. Outgoing as ever, she again formed a network of friends who enjoyed each other’s company.
In her last year, Eleanor lived with her daughter, Mary, in Weymouth, Massachusetts. She so enjoyed the garden and birds in Mary’s yard, and visits from her many grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
While recovering from pneumonia in the John Scott House Rehab, Eleanor acquired Covid19. Alert until the end, she succumbed to the virus in the company of her daughter, Janet, on April 26, 2020. Just before passing, Eleanor was heard conversing with her beloved Jack.
We take comfort in knowing that Eleanor was welcomed by Jack, Harvey, her son Stephen, her granddaughters Tina Barry and Andrea Furness, her sisters, parents, Aunt Agnes and her cousin and best friend, Nancy Hutchins.
Eleanor was loved by her extensive family:
Jean and Robert Pishkin of Waynesboro, VA and their son Andrew Pishkin of Quincy, MA.
David Barry and his late wife Jerralee, of Gridley, CA and children Jessica and Eddie Alcantar and their children Mateo and Ella, and Michael and Serina Smith, and their children Danny and Dylan.
Annmarie and Stephen Flaherty of Sanford, NC and children Jessica and Victor Flavius of Marshfield, MA, Elisa and Michael Roman of San Diego, CA , Kathleen Flaherty of Newton Grove, NC and grandchildren Denzel Vellon, Joel and Josie Flavius, Christian, Joshua, Nathan and Violet Roman, Christopher and Jordan Boyd and Michael Flaherty, Jr., and son-in-law Terry Boyd.
Mary and Richard Jordan of Weymouth, MA and children Tracy Caffin and her husband Scott, Richard Jordan II and his wife Candy, seven grandchildren and fifteen great-grandchildren.
Rita and Wayne Legere of Manchester, NH, and children, Jennifer and Ronald Mimms, parents to Aydan Stavre, Tessa Mimms and Camryn Mimms, Victoria Legere & David Nault, parents to Alexia Legere, Trent King and Charlotte Nault, and Renee Legere.
Janet Barry-McCarthy, and her late husband Jack McCarthy, of Rockland, MA and children Brian McCarthy, and Justin and wife Sarah McCarthy, and grandson Cameron Mokrisky.
Kevin and Sarah Barry and children Grace, Trinity, Jack, Abigail, Bobby, David, and Hope Barry, and Rebecca and Christopher Haldeman.
Brendan Barry and Dawn Kelly, and children John P. Barry and partner, Alisha Gardner, and their son Brayden M. Barry, and Rachel E. Barry, and daughter-in-law Paula Barry.
Cherie and David Gregg.
Tammy and James Garner, and children James Garner, Jr. and Corey and wife Beth Garner.
Please remember Eleanor with donations to Feeding America. Notice of donations may be sent to firstname.lastname@example.org.
A Memorial Service for Eleanor will be scheduled at a later date.
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